About Me

St Louis, MO Counselor Sandra Shachar

Dr. Sandra Shachar, PhD, Licensed Psychologist, St. Louis

I specialize in relationship and communication issues.  I have specialized training in and a passion for working with individuals and couples affected by Sex, Love and Porn Addiction/Compulsive Behavior.  

I have extensive training and over 30 years' experience in using research-based solutions for individuals, couples and families seeking to increase satisfaction, harmony and peace in their relationships, work and personal health.  I strive to receive clients from all backgrounds with respect, compassion and in a spirit of working in partnership toward greater health and happiness!

Training, Experience and Credentials:

Ph.D. Counseling Psychology, 1979,
University of Texas at Austin

Marriage & Family Therapy training, 1988-1991, Menninger Clinic,
St. Louis, Missouri

St. Louis University Medical Center,
Director, Stress Management Center 1980-1982

Private Practice in Counseling Psychology,
St. Louis, Missouri, 1982-2001; 2011-present

License & Certifications

Missouri License, State Committee of Psychologists, 201100689

Additional Training 

Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) trained, 2019

Sex and Love Addiction Treatment Training Program, Center for Healthy Sex, Los Angeles, CA 2019

Collaborative Divorce Training, 2011 & 2018
Mediation Training, St. Louis University Law School, 2012

Imago Therapy, Certification Training & Supervision,  2019 - present

Gottman Therapy, 2013 (Level 1) 

Professional Activities and Memberships

American Psychological Association 

Missouri Psychological Association

Missouri Collaborative Institute, Divorce Coach 

International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, Divorce Coach

Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH) 

Areas of Expertise and Special Interest 

Relationship issues, including: 

Sex Addiction/Compulsive Sexual Behaviors (Partners and Couples)


High-Conflict & Poor Communication 

Low Intimacy &  Low-Sex or No-Sex relationships;
Non-traditional, A-Romantic, Polyamorous or Open-Relationships

Divorce Counseling &
Divorce Coaching for Collaborative Divorce

Remarriage/Blended Families
Dating & Premarital Counseling
Relationships affected by Childhood Trauma

LGBTQ individuals and couples/relationships

Non-medication management of Depression and Anxiety,
using Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Mindfulness Practice 


Rabbinical Ordination, Reconstructionist Rabbinical College, Philadelphia, PA 2010

Certification in Spiritual Direction, 2013 

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Appointment Times

Additional hours may be scheduled by appointment


11:00 am-5:00 pm


11:00 am-6:00 pm


11:00 am-6:00 pm


11:00 am-6:00 pm


11:00 am-6:00 pm


By Appointment Only