About Me

St Louis, MO Counselor Sandra Shachar

Dr. Sandra Shachar, PhD, Licensed Psychologist, 

Based in Philadelphia PA, with additional office in St. Louis, MO

Offering Telehealth to clients in more than 30 PSYPACT-participating states 

Author of The Porn Solution: Relationship Repair After Pornography Betrayal, 

Sano Press (2023)


I have extensive training and over 30 years' experience in using research-based solutions for individuals, couples and families seeking to increase satisfaction, harmony and peace in their relationships, work and personal health. 

I specialize in relationship and communication issues.  I have specialized training in and a passion for working with individuals and couples affected by Betrayal Trauma caused by Infidelity,  Sex, Love and Porn Addiction and Problematic Sexual Behavior.  

I strive to receive clients from diverse backgrounds with respect, compassion and in a spirit of working in partnership toward greater health and happiness!

Training, Experience and Credentials:

Ph.D. Counseling Psychology, 1979,
University of Texas at Austin

Marriage & Family Therapy training, 1988-1991, Menninger Clinic,
St. Louis, Missouri

St. Louis University Medical Center,
Director, Stress Management Center 1980-1982

Private Practice in Counseling Psychology,
St. Louis, Missouri, 1982-2001; 2011-2021

Philadelphia PA 2021-present  

License & Certifications 

Certified Imago Relationship Therapist 

Certified Clinical Partner Specialist, Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Treatment Specialists/APSATS

Authorized Telehealth Psychologist, PSYPACT, Association of State and Provincial Psychology Boards/ASPPB 

Missouri License, State Committee of Psychologists, 201100689

Pennsylvania License, State Board of Psychology, PSO19197

Specialty Training 

Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) 2019

Sex and Love Addiction Treatment Training Program, Dr. Alexandra Katehakis, Center for Healthy Sex, Los Angeles, CA 2019

Imago Therapy Clinician training, 2018-2020

Collaborative Divorce Training, 2011 & 2018
Mediation Training, St. Louis University Law School, 2012 

Gottman Therapy, 2013 (Level 1) 

Professional Activities and Memberships

American Psychological Association 

Missouri Psychological Association

Pennsylvania Psychological Association 

Imago Relationships North America 

Mid-Atlantic Imago Therapists 

Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH) 

Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS)

Areas of Expertise

Betrayal and Infidelity

Partners of Persons affected by Sex Addiction/Compulsive Sexual Behaviors

Couples affected by Betrayal Trauma/Infidelity 

High-Conflict & Poor Communication couples 

Low Intimacy,  Low-Sex or No-Sex couples 

Non-traditional, A-Romantic, Polyamorous or Open Relationships

Discernment Counseling ( considering separation or divorce)

Re-marriage and Blended Families 

Dating & Premarital Counseling 

Attachment and Early Life Trauma and Emotional Neglect 

My approach is:

12 Step Program recovery compatible  

LGBTQIA friendly/aware

Kink friendly/aware

Spiritual/faith issues:

While my therapeutic approach with clients is not "faith-based"  (I.e., not grounded in any religious or faith tradition), I strive to honor and acknowledge my clients' personal spiritual traditions, beliefs and struggles, especially as they relate to our work with trauma, grief and loss. 

My approach to addressing spiritual matters comes both from  Judaism, as well as from a 12-Step Recovery perspective of identifying a personal Higher Power and spiritual principles to illuminate your life path forward, whether grounded in a specific faith, Agnosticism, Atheism, Humanism or other paths.  

Training and certification:

Rabbinic Ordination, Reconstructionist Rabbinical College, Philadelphia, PA 2010

Rabbinic Intern, The Interfaith Center of Philadelphia, 2009-2010 

Certification to provide Spiritual Direction, 2013 

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Appointment Times

Additional hours may be scheduled by appointment. All appointments are scheduled directly with Dr. Shachar.




9:00 AM-5:00 PM CST

10:00 AM - 6:00 PM EST


9:00 AM - 5:00 PM CST

10:00 AM - 6:00 PM EST


9:00 AM - 5:00 PM CST

10:00 AM - 6:00 PM EST


9:00 AM - 3:00 PM CST

10:00 AM - 4:00 PM EST